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Sunday, March 19, 2006

Here N'There

So...here's the deal...drama goin on here, haha...but not with me, well, there's some drama, but we can talk about that later...

I have these friends...let's call them...Anne, Nate, and Naomi

I'll give background, then I'll fill ya in on what I think...and what others think...and then, I'd like to hear what y'all think...

So at the beginning of the year, Anne and Nate kinda like eachother...but nothing really happens...Anne is kinda stringing this guy along, and won't break up with him cuz they had already planned on going on a Christmas trip together...and she doesn't want to not have sex with him during the trip...so, as a selfish girl, she puts Nate on hold assuming he won't go out with anyone else, and strings along her soon-to-be ex so they can be sex-buddies on the trip...

Meanwhile, Nate begins to secretly go out with someone before Christmas...it's all kinda hush-hush, then I go away on my trip to the Philippines, and a few weeks after I get back, he fesses up and tells me about it...meanwhile, Anne's now ex has gone back to New Zealand...and she's officially single again...

The night after Nate tells me, he gets super retardedly drunk, and tells Anne that he's seeing someone...she's crushed and super upset, and so me and her have a drink the next night so I can talk her head straight...I can't sympathize with her dumbassness and I basically tell her that this is her fault for assuming she could have Nate whenever she wanted, and that she should basically shut up and stop playin the victem (obvisouly, in slightly nicer words)...when matters of the heart do not concern me, I can be strangely objective and blunt...especially when it's plain you've screwed up and this is your fault...

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago...I'm at Anne's place...her and Nate are kinda friends now, and things seem cool...she tells me that a couple of nights ago, Nate told her in confidence that he's not too happy in the relationship right now and that he'd break up with Naomi if he thought Anne and him had a chance at anything, then he and asked what she thought he should do...and this got her thinking that she still kinda liked him again...

Instead of helping him sort things out, she decided to exacerbate the situation and tell him that she still liked him...BUT, that she didn't want a relationship...at all...whatsoever...she just wanted to tell him cuz she thought he should know...and that he deserved to know...even though nothing was going to come of it...and then, she kisses him, and then they drunkenly make out...

And drunken make-out sessions are totally not a big deal...when there aren't feelings involved...but when there are, and especially if those feelings are NOT mutual, it's just a stupid thing to do...and if you're the one who doesn't feel that way, but you initiate, you're really fucking up here...

So then, Nate being the good guy that he is...breaks up with Naomi, to see if Anne is sure she doesn't want something out of this...he feels, there was something behind the make-out session (seeing as how Anne just told him she still likes him)...

So, what does Anne do about this? nothing...instead, she starts having a kinda random friends with benefits relationship with this other friend of ours, Tim...

SOOOOOOO...

that's what happened...

I maintain...that Anne was being a selfish bitch...she was WELL AWARE of the fact that telling Nate and following that statement with kissing him would lead to him breaking up with Naomi...I don't understand the whole "him deserving to know" idea...he only deserves to know if you're willing to pursue something...if you like him, but don't care to show it, fuck off...

The girls however, have taken to the notion that Nate was being unfair to Naomi...and that what Anne did was right...because afterall, if Nate feels so strongly about Anne, he shouldn't be with Naomi...and due to those circumstances, Anne did the right thing...

I get the whole unfairness to Naomi business, and I understand where the girls are coming from...but I don't in any way think that it was Anne's place to fuck up Nate and Naomi's relationship...it wasn't the perfect ideal relationship, but that's for Nate to sort out...Anne shoulda played the friend card, and not complicated matters...

Anne's involvement in the situation amounts to her breaking them up for the sake of it...cuz she thought they shouldn't be together if Nate still liked Anne...

It's clear though...that Nate wasn't just stringing Naomi along...he genuinely liked them both (and if that's a situation you can't understand, then nevermind all this)...he just liked Anne a lil more than Naomi...but he still did in fact like her...

So my position in all this, is that Anne shoulda fucked off and not messed with them...it wasn't her place to intervene in a seemingly imperfect relationship...especially if she was gonna bugger off and become sexbuddies with Tim...

The girls' position, is that Anne did the right thing...cuz Naomi didn't deserve to be in that relationship...and if she couldn't see that, it was right for Anne to step in...

Now, What Do YOU Think??

Ponder that, and watch your step on the way outt...

posted by Herb 2:06 AM

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